EPHESIANS
4:17-32 “HOW TO BE A BODY
BUILDER” Mark Kolbe
INTRODUCTION
As you know
you can use the internet to learn just about anything today and that includes
what it takes to become a body builder.
If it is your desire to have big, thick, chiseled muscles all over your
body, a simple google search on the topic will come back with tips like
this: 1. Master Proper Form First, 2.
Take a Day Off Between Workouts, 3. Make Sure You Stretch, 4. Have a Goal, 5.
Eat plenty of protein and carbohydrates before and after a workout, 6. Include
workouts that focus on cardiovascular health, 7. Stay Focused and In Control,
8. Perform exercises that require you to use multiple muscle groups, 9. Learn
from Your Mistakes. 10. And as you would
expect, the really serious body builders need to have very strict diets that
they must religiously.
We have
spent the last 2-3 weeks learning about how the Christians are part of a
body. We have learned that it’s not
enough to just be a part of the body, but instead each part needs to contribute
to the body in a positive way, not doing it harm. When we get to Ephesians 4:17, it seems that
Paul has some inside scoop regarding the behavior of the Christians in
Ephesus. Certain parts of this body
aren’t functioning as they should, so Paul has to get more personal with his
audience and tell them how to improve.
Paul is
going to do this by insisting that these Gentile Christians in Ephesus must
live differently from the Gentiles in Ephesus who do not believe in Jesus. We are going to see that this is not just a difference,
but a noticeable difference. If you
think about examples of ways people try to be noticed, most tend to relate to
external looks, special talents, pride, or devious behavior. However, as we’ll see, Paul doesn’t instruct
these Christians to wear fancy suits or dresses, he doesn’t tell them to show
off juggling skills on a street corner, to move out of their houses into
communes, or to sing loud worship songs as they march to every church service
they can find. Instead, the different
and noticeable lifestyle Paul is talking about has to do with changed hearts
and minds.
NON-CHRISTIANS
LOSE SENSITIVY TO GAIN SENSUALITY
17 So I tell you this, and insist on it in
the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of
their thinking. 18 They are darkened in their understanding and separated from
the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening
of their hearts. 19 Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves
over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, and they are
full of greed.
First, Paul contrasts
the way these believers should be thinking and acting by contrasting it with
the futile thinking of non-believers. The
Greek word for futile in this passage is mátaios (Mat-i-yose), which means devoid of truth, or perverse. When people are perverse, they have a goal or
desire to obtain something, but they disregard truth in their attempts to
obtain it. Their ideas and desires run contrary
to God’s standard – His character, His words, and His work. That makes their behaviors futile attempts to
obtain what they really need.
Paul then focuses
on the hearts of people in verse 18, when he writes about hearts being
hardened. He doesn’t say it here, but in
other places in scripture it says that God sometimes plays a role in the
hardening of a person’s heart. It’s
important to understand that the hardening of a person’s heart isn’t a matter
of God toying with the consciences of innocent people. People are already
guilty of sin prior to hearts becoming hardened. They have begun a cumulative process of
allowing their consciences to be desensitized to the holiness of God. God has provided evidence and information to
them in various forms that proves their choices and beliefs contradict His
truth, but they continually ignore those facts. Since people like this are willing
to be fooled, God gives them what they want (Romans 1:18-24, 1 Timothy 4:1-2). Once a person has lived like this long
enough, it is very tough for them to respond to God’s call and repent of their
sin.
Their
inability to see things from God’s perspective is also noted in the phrase,
“They are darkened in their understanding”.
These words about their spiritual condition imply a lifestyle like what
it is for someone who has been physically blind from birth. A person like that cannot even comprehend
what it means to see.
When Paul
says to “no longer live like the Gentiles do”, he is referring to people who
have ungodly, inexplicable, non-sensical beliefs and lifestyles due to minds
lacking truth of God and hearts unable to repent. We can find all sorts of examples of this
today, where people are rebelling against obvious things that God has designed
in creation and what he has revealed in scripture. People who are determined to create a new,
false reality based upon a perverse mindset.
The recent shift in beliefs regarding sexuality and gender are two of
the most obvious examples of this today.
In the future, this kind of irrational thinking will come to a head when
people seriously believe they can defeat Jesus Christ during the tribulation.
In verse 19,
Paul reveals what happens when people’s minds and hearts are no longer
sensitive to God. From a physical perspective,
many of us know what it is like to lose sensitivity. Some of us have experienced the loss of smell
or taste due to illness. Before my wife
got surgery, she had begun to lose feeling in her feet because her nerves were
being impinged in her lower back area.
But I think an example of someone who has lost sensitivity, that is a
better example for what Paul is talking about is a person who we might call a slob. Have you ever been to someone’s house or
apartment who has slobby tendencies? I’m
not talking about people whose house is in disrepair because they don’t have
the money to fix broken things, but someone who leaves garbage and food laying
around; someone who dislikes doing dishes, so they leave stacks of them by the
sink, or on the end table. Some people become
contented living that way because they put more value on doing other things
like watching TV, browsing the internet, or having parties than they do cleanliness.
Paul isn’t
referring to people who are oblivious to a moldy cheese sandwich on a bedside
table, he is talking about people who lack spiritual sensitivity. They have lost sensitivity to the things of
God and the evidence He has provided. They now are numb to it. However, they are still sensitive to
something because Paul says they have “given themselves over to sensuality”. Instead of allowing their spiritual senses to
be stimulated, they attempt to stimulate senses that are affected when they behave
in ways that go against the character and will of God. They live lives of indulgence – attempting to
get whatever they want no matter the cost, only seeing what is right before
their eyes. The earth and what it offers are so appealing, they don’t bother to
think about long-term consequences.
CHRISTIANS
NEED TO WEAR NEW MINDS & HEARTS THAT DISPLAY GOD’S CHARACTER
20 That, however, is not the way of life
you learned 21 when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance
with the truth that is in Jesus. 22 You were taught, with regard to your former
way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its
deceitful desires; 23 to be made new in the attitude of your minds; 24 and to
put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.
Paul now
contrasts the life philosophy of non-believers, with a different way of living that
these Gentile Christians had already been taught sometime in the past. Remember, Paul is writing to these people
from Rome, which occurred after he had lived with many of these people in Ephesus
during his 2nd and 3rd missionary journeys (Timothy will
be sent to become a leader later). While
in Ephesus he had spent time teaching them personally (Acts 18:23) and talking
about Christianity in public lecture halls (Acts 19:9). Upon leaving these people in Ephesus, these
young Ephesian Christians had continued to receive instruction from disciples
that Paul left behind. For example, Aquilla
and Priscilla established a church in their home in Ephesus (1 Corinthians
16:19). These two taught Apollos, and then Apollos eventually taught there are
well (Acts 18:24-28).
In other
words, these people Paul is writing to had already received encouragement from himself,
as well as other brothers and sisters, to not follow their old nature. Now Paul finds it necessary to remind them again
how they should be living as Christians.
How come? Were these people just
slow learners?
The concept
of learning is a curious thing. Some things that we learn, we never have to be
taught again. For example, once you
learn 2 + 2 is 4, you would never intentionally list the answer as 5. Once a person learns that fire causes painful
burns, it isn’t likely he’ll stick his face on an open flame to see if it happens
every time. Then there are other things
where learning occurs time as we fail on our first few attempts to learn them. The process we went through to learn how to
ride a bike is an example. When we fell,
we brushed off the dirt, gravel, and tears, then got back on the bike to try
again. Sometimes learning takes a long
time because we are suspicious and don’t immediately or consistently follow the
teaching because we are holding out hope that what we learned isn’t entirely true,
or that there is an alternative that produces pleasurable results as well. Mentally, people who smoke cigarettes know
that their health will suffer for it, but they gain enough “value” from them
that they continue to smoke anyway.
Paul
instructs these Christians to take action and put off the “Gentile way of life”. This proves that when they became believers
the tendency to sin wasn’t fully removed. Their “old nature” filled with deceitful
desires still existed and therefore they were able to be tempted, and then to
give in to that temptation. Paul is
teaching these people to unlearn one kind of way of life and learn how to live
a different way. Or said another way,
quit dressing like non-believers and put on the uniform and dress code of
Christ.
All
Christians struggle with the tendency to want to continue living according to
the ways of this “old self”. Even Paul wasn’t
transformed into a perfect individual after having been taught by Christ. He admitted to the struggles he had when he
wrote Romans 7:15-20 - I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do
I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I
agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it,
but it is sin living in me. 18 For I know that good itself does not dwell in
me, that is, in my sinful nature.[a] For I have the
desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. 19 For I do not do the
good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. 20
Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is
sin living in me that does it.
Being a Christian
is a constant learning process. Paul’s
use of the phrase “be made new in the attitude of your mind” means that he
wants these people to come into the process with hearts that are willing to
change, get rid of the thinking that goes in their mind that is unholy, intentionally
think about how to being holy, and then do it.
SPECIFIC
BEHAVIORS THAT ARE ESPECIALLY BAD FOR CHRISTIANS
25 Therefore each of you must put off
falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one
body. 26 “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are
still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold. 28 Anyone who has been
stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their
own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need. 29 Do not
let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for
building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who
listen.
At the
beginning of this section, Paul referred to extreme, perverse, ungodly thinking
and behavior that exists in the lives of those who lived around Ephesus who
were not believers in Jesus. But now,
Paul writes about specific issues that these Gentile Christians need to deal
with. Paul addresses four specific
behaviors they need to intentionally get rid of: Falsehood, uncontrolled anger, stealing, and
unwholesome talk.
The text
doesn’t tell us why Paul focused on these things - all we know is that he
did. It is likely that someone who held
a leadership role in Ephesus has either written to Paul or travelled to Rome to
tell him personally that these things were a problem in the Ephesian
church. There are lots of ways people
can sin, so it makes us wonder why Paul was compelled to address these particular
issues with the Ephesians. It’s worth
noting that these people don’t immediately correct these behaviors, because
when Paul writes to Timothy, the church leader in Ephesus several years later,
he encourages him to address many of these same issues.
Just like
people have different personalities and abilities, they also have different
behavioral weaknesses. It’s possible
that these were characteristics that many of these believers happened to share
more than others. It’s also possible
these behaviors were more prominent because of where they lived and who they
were living among. Sometimes when people
see certain behavior modeled enough times, they think it is “normal” or
“acceptable”.
Ephesus was
a large, multi-ethnic center of trade. As
a result, there were a lot of wealthy people, living in extravagance, comfort,
and pleasure. When circumstances occur that threaten one’s lifestyle, people
can become mean and cruel to each other.
It’s also possible that they were tempted towards these sins because of
conflicts that existed between Gentile Christians and Jewish Christians.
We’ll talk a
little bit more about what these sins seem to be rooted in later. But for now, let’s focus on the two primary
reasons why he insists these people clean up their act. Paul has already referred to the way
non-believing people in that city live.
Therefore, what better way for those people to see the life-changing
potential of Jesus Christ, than to see another group of people start acting
differently than they did before? That’s
the first reason he wants these Christians to change. Picture a society where everyone is chasing
after pleasure, when they don’t get what they want, they get nasty with each
other. Even when they do get what they
want, they experience bad consequences.
However, amid that type of culture, there is a subset of people who, even
though bad things happen, remain joyful, nice, and serve others. Those people will shine like a light in the
darkness. People who see that different
and refreshing behavior may then ask the question, “What is it that they have
that enables them to live like that, and how can I get it?”
The second reason
Paul insists these people get rid of these issues is because of the topic that
he has been writing about previously – unity.
If these people are going to be a good witness to non-believers around
them, and if they are going to be able to withstand the persecution that is
going to come from outside their ranks, this body of believers needs to get
along and be united in one purpose. All these behaviors were detrimental
towards the process of building up a group of people.
Let’s look
at the 4 issues that Paul highlights.
Falsehood. Why is falsehood bad? When a person does not speak the truth,
others around them can suffer for it. This behavior can have a compound effect
because if someone believes the lie is the truth, they will also spread that
same lie. This is especially true when someone lies about things revealed by
God. That kind of falsehood leads to
spiritual carnage. Lies lead people to
live the opposite of how God has intended, and bad things will always result. Falsehood and lies are eventually
discovered. Therefore, once you realize
someone hasn’t been truthful with you in the past, it becomes difficult to
trust them in the future. I’ve been
guilty of falsehood. More than once, my
wife has caught me merely rinsing a dish I just used with water then putting it
on the side of the sink where the clean dishes are supposed to go. That kind of behavior is a falsehood - dishes
are supposed to be washed with soap and a washcloth if you really want them
clean. Because of what I’ve done in the
past, every time I step up to the sink, I see a bit of skepticism in her eyes,
and receive instructions from her on how to wash dishes.
Anger – The
Bible acknowledges the fact we are emotional beings. Even Jesus experienced and displayed emotion.
He wept upon hearing of the death of
Lazarus and got angry upon seeing the degrading way people were treating the
temple. Anger is a natural response to
bad things. However, Paul reminds these
people to get over anger quickly. Christians
should not focus on bad things for too long.
Just like this world is temporary, so should our anger be. Harboring anger leads to resentment and makes
people more likely behave in an irrational or embarrassing way. People tend to avoid angry people, so anger also
leads to a lack of deep, meaningful relationships. Unchecked anger is a key reason for
disunity.
Stealing. Of the 4 things Paul focuses on, stealing
seems most egregious. It seems
unconscionable that a believer in Christ would take possessions that didn’t
belong to him or her. Paul doesn’t
provide any details on what was being stolen, why it was being stolen, or whom
it was stolen from. It’s possible that
since Ephesus was a wealthy city, some of these believers justified their
actions by thinking they were just taking from the surplus of others, or maybe some
stole out of revenge for the persecution they were facing. However, Paul’s additional commentary about
the matter leads me to believe the stealing was occurring within the
church. Paul refers to the necessity of
work and to earn enough so that an individual can give to someone else in
need. Believers in Ephesus had likely
come together as a group and were sharing resources like food, clothes,
housing, and money. In an environment with
a pool of resources, some of them may have taken advantage of the situation. Rather than working to earn enough to
contribute to the greater good, some people may have become lazy, and taking
food, money, clothes that were meant for others who were unable to work and had
real needs.
Unwholesome words. The Greek word here is “sapros”
(sa-prahs) which means words that are rotten,
corrupt, or bad. Upon first glance this
might seem kind of vague, or even debatable because each person has a different
opinion of what wholesome or unwholesome is.
However, we can get a better perspective of what kind of words fall into
the category of unwholesome by considering how the word is used throughout
scripture. Six out of eight times this
word is used in the New Testament it is used in the context of a tree and its
fruit. Wholesome talk is like a healthy
tree that produces good fruit.
Unwholesome talk is like an unhealthy tree that produces fruit that
cannot be eaten.
Obviously,
not every word we say directs people towards a better relationship with
Christ. For example, if I told you I was
bringing chocolate cake with peanut butter frosting to the church potluck, that
has no spiritual impact whatsoever. On
the other hand, if your reply to me was, “Please, don’t bring that dessert
again. The last time you brought it, it
tasted like you made it with dog do do”, those words
start to lean towards the unwholesome side of the pendulum.
The phrase,
“sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me” is a lie.
People are influenced by words. Words filled
with truth and love are good because they reflect the nature of God. Words filled with falsehood or hate are bad
because they do not reflect the nature of God.
Christianity is built on the concept of being vulnerable, then hearing
words that give an honest assessment that there is something wrong with you,
and hearing words that provide the solution to the problem, thus bringing a
person closer to God. Christians should
not speak in a way that encourages a person towards sin.
CONSIDER THE
HOLY SPIRIT, THE FUTURE, JESUS AND FELLOW BELIEVERS
30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of
God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all
bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of
malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just
as in Christ God forgave you.
Just to make
sure these Ephesian Christians were clear about the kind of behavior they
needed to get rid of, Paul summarizes it using some different words than he did
before. However, they all fall into the
same categories that he described previously (v31).
Finally, after
having written numerous verses on what NOT to do, this chapter ends with one
verse describing what the way these Christians should be acting instead. In
chapter 5 we’ll see additional encouragement from Paul on the type of
characteristics that their lives should display. However, at the end of this chapter he
reminds them that they should be mimicking the attitude and behavior of their
savior, Jesus Christ.
Earlier I
mentioned that I wanted to talk about what these negative behaviors were rooted
in. You may have already been trying to
figure that out as you considered what falsehood, uncontrolled anger, stealing,
and unwholesome talk have in common.
Verse 31 also gives us a clue as to what leads people to act in the ways
that these Ephesian Christians did.
Paul refers
to the fact that these people were “sealed for the day of redemption”. That day is some time in the future when Christians
will all be resurrected from the dead, being changed in an instant as they receive
their new, glorified, bodies that are not subject to death or sin. Paul is contrasting what will be someday with
the way things are now. Christians
living in this world will be subjected to bad circumstances that they have to
deal with.
The Bible
says that God has set eternity in the heart of man. This means that everything we experience in
this imperfect world gets bounced off the perfect and eternal world that God
has made available to those He created.
Some things that we experience are a minute reflection of the good that
awaits in heaven. Things like a
beautiful sunset, a babbling brook, the taste of good food, or the laughter of
a child are like the tip of a happiness iceberg for which we were made. On the
other hand, when bad things happen, we experience opposition to the good that
we long for and the good that awaits in heaven.
All four of
the things Paul described are sinful ways people respond to things in this
world that they do not like. The people
who are more apt to respond with these attitudes and behaviors are those who
are more focused on themselves, and the here and now, than they are on other
people and preparing for heaven.
Not only are
other people negatively affected by these behaviors, but so is God, and He’s
affected in a deep and personal way. Earlier
Paul talked about the Gentiles who had lost sensitivity in spiritual
truth. When a person becomes a believer in
Jesus, they discover a new kind of sensitivity in their life, because the Holy
Spirit takes up residence inside. It is
the role of the Holy Spirit to tweak the consciences of believers and convict them
so that their attitudes and behaviors come into alignment with Jesus. Verse 30 lets us know that the Holy Spirit is
deeply sensitive to how we respond to the work He is doing in us. In other words, this sensitivity runs two
ways.
Anyone who
has gotten married is familiar with this two-way sensitivity dynamic. A person who is single can eat what they
want, when they want, and could clean up afterwards when and if they want. A single person can choose whatever paint
color they want for the wall, and whatever kind of bed spread they want. But once
a person is married, they find themselves living with someone else who is
sensitive to all their choices and behaviors.
Married people learn that their spouses want to take their thoughts and
feelings into consideration.
The Holy
Spirit’s sealing provides the security of a guaranteed salvation and therefore
a future of perfection and abundance.
The behaviors the Ephesian Christians were displaying didn’t reflect
that reality. They were the reflection of a people who were still primarily focused
on receiving pleasure in an imperfect world.
SO WHAT
1.
Enjoy
the good things in life but don’t make them your main goal.
A Christian
should ask himself this question, “What is the primary thing that determines my
affections, my thinking, and my actions?
Is it comfort, pleasure, greed, or is it future, eternal reward? The music duo of Seals and Crofts was famous
for a song, “We may never pass this way again”.
It is based upon the reality that life is short, so we need to take
advantage of it. For some the pursuit of
earthly pleasures becomes the primary goal even if it requires immoral
behaviors to accomplish it. As
Christians we shouldn’t sacrifice holiness and reward just to experience
something now that can never live up to what God is going to let us experience
in heaven. Jesus commanded us to seek
first His kingdom (Matthew 6:33). Paul encouraged Christians to set their minds
on things above (Colossians 3:2). Solomon
said it this way in Ecclesiastes: “You who are young, be happy while you are
young, and let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth. Follow the
ways of your heart and whatever your eyes see, but know that for all these
things God will bring you into judgment (Ecclesiastes 11:9-10).” “…here is the
conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the
duty of all mankind.14 For God will bring every deed into judgment, including
every hidden thing, whether it is good or evil (Ecclesiastes 12:13-14)”
2.
Seek
and Speak Truth
Today,
falsehoods are so prevalent, easy to spread, and intentionally being used to
manipulate people. So much so, that it
has given rise to a group of people called “Fact Checkers”. When truth is so relative, can you even trust
a fact checker? It is very difficult to
ensure that we and the people we love are being taught the truth. According to God’s plan, nuclear families are
one of the key ways to ensure that truth is taught and learned. However, today parents have less influence
over their children than ever. Instead the role of dictating what is true and what is good
is being taken over by school boards, school teachers, government, journalists,
and the internet. Even adults need to be
careful who and what they are listening to.
Christians need to surround themselves with others who treasure absolute
truth, grounded in who God really is and what He is really like. Not only should we hold on to unchanging
truth we have been taught in the past, but we need to continue to learn by
studying the Bible. When I graduated
from high school, I received a bible as a gift from the church I attended. My youth director at the time wrote in it,
“Either this book will keep you from sin, or sin will keep you from this
book.”
3.
Listen
to your conscience and respond in a Godly way.
In the world
today, the bar of moral excellence has pretty much been lowered to the ground.
Personal accountability is becoming rare and letting law breakers loose on the
streets is becoming virtuous. In many
places, chaos reigns and people wonder why. For Christians, not only do we have God’s
truth in front of us in creation and in the Bible, but we have the Holy Spirit
inside us, playing an active role in convicting us when we sin. During those times that you feel far from
God, honestly reflect to see if it has anything to do with the fact you have
ignored or grieved the Holy Spirit. If
you know it’s wrong, but do it anyway, that leads to a hard heart. Instead, we
need to have soft and vulnerable ones by responding in a Godly way whenever the
Holy Spirit tweaks our consciences.
4.
Display
Godly character in all circumstances
Do it when
with non-believers so they can see Jesus.
Do it when with believers so they can be built up.